Are you feeling unseen? Isn’t it astonishing that there are partners who will stay with those who are prickly and defensive? Those who regularly take out their weapons and spit out their resentments?  Those who are puffed up in their own grandiose reflections?  Who are filled with their own cleverness and enamored of their successes? […]

What is narcissism? I suspect most of us have an internal part (ego-state) that is on the hunt in the external world for self-love, seeking outward for inner acceptance. If we give full reign to this impulse, we tend to form a pathological relationship with whatever we seek, whatever we can catch or can subdue, […]

In the Greek myth, Narcissus cannot look deeply into his reflection or he will encounter the truth that he wants desperately to avoid. He is caught, pushed and pulled, and mesmerized. He becomes enamored of the mirrored surface (it is the only way to feel loved). I am what I do. I am what I […]